Bzzzzp. Nope. Maximal growth happens at the edge between support and challenge. Mother nature demonstrates this beautifully during the changing of seasons, and in predator and prey dynamics. Both creation and destruction are necessary for evolution and maximizing potential.
Imagine what it would be like if parents supported their children all of the time, regardless of the demands made by the child.
Child: “Mom, I want to play video games all day and eat only chocolate, gummy bears and chips, and wear my pyjamas, and never take a shower. I don’t want to get a job, and I’m never leaving home. I’ll live here forever and you’ll take care of all my needs.”
Mom: “Yes dear.”
Ridiculous, right?! As parents we challenge our kids every day. We call it, ‘helping them become independent and grow up’, or teaching them about ‘real life’.
Partners don’t grow by being supported and dependent all the time. They require challenges, feedback, setbacks and failures to learn, adapt and evolve.
- Normalize the need for challenge and support in order for the partnership to grow.
- Identify constructive ways to embrace challenge, adversity and failure.
- Prepare for setbacks and have a plan of action ready.
Expecting partners to support each other all the time is unrealistic, and will create an unnecessary source of frustration and tension.
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- Posted by Enette Pauzé
- On July 21, 2016