Conflict and confrontation help develop healthy relationships and partnerships.
If done in the right context, conflicts and confrontations can provide you with essential gems for growing your partnership and solving problems.
For example, if you want your kids to tell you the truth when you ask them a question, you have to be prepared for the truth. If you go ballistic every time they tell you ‘bad stuff’, they’ll quickly learn to tell you what you want to hear, instead of the truth.
If kids are not able to confront authority or challenge the status quo, will they maximize their potential?
Your partners need to know that they can be honest and direct, without fear of repercussions and being reprimanded. You won’t hear about the truths of your partnership functioning if people are condemned for telling you what isn’t working, or if you punish them.
The wrong context:
1. Putting people on the spot, catching them off guard.
2. Trying to be right, convince them, or prove them wrong.
3. Creating an ‘us versus them’ atmosphere.
The right context:
1. Clear rules of engagement. Decide in advance how you want partners to identify and share what isn’t working in the partnership.
2. Practice conflict. Purposefully ask partners to be the devil’s advocate and to challenge ideas, processes, or plans of action. Rotate the role so that everyone gets a chance to experience it.
3. Demonstrate consistently over time that partners are not reprimanded for challenging the group, pointing out disadvantages, or saying things that are disruptive.
Conflict and confrontation are necessary for partnership growth.
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- Posted by Enette Pauzé
- On July 21, 2016
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